I am making a wedding cake next Saturday, bride called and now has a topper that are her and her grooms initials.. her initial of her first name, her grooms first name intial and their last name initial....question???? what is the proper placement of these initials on the cake first she wanted fresh flowers on the top, now these intials are a last minute change....someone please clue me in on intial etiquite

I'm not absolutely positive, but I think that the last name initial will go in the middle, his first name initial on the left and hers on the right. Maybe someone else will know for sure.

In a monogram, the bride's initial goes first. I'm an A, DH is an R, and our last name is a G so our monogram is AGR.

not sure if it is a southern thing or not but around here, last name in middle, groom on the left, bride on the right. Just opposite of the previous post.

Well, this is a Nashville, TN wedding, southern....so maybe I should call the bridal shop where she purchased to confirm. Thank you guys, leave it to the bride to change plans in midstream. She still hasn't given me the florist name yet that is to meet me with the flowers......

My sons getting married and they decided some of the fonts didn't look good with one or the other first. They played around with it to see what looked best. But always had the last name letter in the middle

just checked several wedding ettiquite sites

they all agreed that traditional order is:


bride's initial last name intial groom's initial

bride's first initial, first letter of last name, grooms first initial.

Just as the bride's name comes first on the invitations.

Thanks for the information on that. I was wondering too.

Personally, I would just ask the Bride how she wanted it, (and write it down and get her to sign it somehow) then it's her fault if it's not exactly right!!

Thanks you guys! They are really pretty and I think they will be a great addition to the cake. Things sure have changed from my day however. Can't keep up with all the new stuff

On wedding ivites, etc., the bride is always mentioned first, so the bride definitely goes first, unless they're nontraditional and they can put them on there however they choose.

Good Luck, and I hope they don't make any more last min. changes!

I checked some of the wedding invitation books that I sell invitations from...they said that before the marriage the bride's name goes first...hence the brides name first on the invites, and the groom's name goes first after the marriage and therefore thank you notes, reception napkins, etc. groom's name goes first. Judging by that the groom's would go first on the cake because people won't see it until after they are married. But I agree with the post suggesting asking the brides opinion. I always tell them it's their wedding and they can do what ever they want. After watching an episode of Bridezillas today, a lot of them get their way...right or wrong!

one of the oldest ettiquete rules in the book:

ladies first.



(i guest that includes bridezillas)