Ok...I have a dilemma that is soooo frustrating, for MANY reasons. This will be long, but I need to share the details so you guys get the full picture and can help me with some good advice on how to deal with this person. It's imperative that I handle myself the best way possible because she's already accused me of lyin...and she made these accusations to my DH, no less!!! Here goes....

BACKGROUND: She is someone I used to have a friendship with, so I thought, and our husbands are good buddies. I found out after a while that she's the kind of person that only thinks of you as a friend when you do stuff for her...not the other way around...doesn't make herself available to do the kinds of things that friends do for each other, etc. Only called when she needed me to bring her daughter home from school or when she needed a cake (but would pretend to be asking me for advice or ideas only and come in the back-way with having me end up doing the cake at cost); wouldn't return my phone calls when I would try to make plans to get together with the kids and stuff like that. I'd resolved myself to the fact that, for whatever reason, she really didn't want to have a friendship with me...it hurt my feelings, of course, but I'm a big girl...I got over it and told my DH that while he couldn't expect me to put myself out there anymore to be her 'friend', he could count on me to be friend-LY with her when/if we all got together to do things, etc.

SITUATION: Back on Feb. 17th this woman calls me needing a cake...within the next 5 hours!!! Her DH's bday was the following Monday and at the last minute his parents, other family, etc. was coming over to celebrate...could I do it? I said sure, no problem. But I would have to charge her this time, though at a much discounted rate, since it was such late notice. (I learn ) I didn't have any other orders that day & I was itching to bake/decorate anyway...plus, I happen to like her DH a lot ...he's a great guy, is always nice to me and he and my DH are great friends...so I really was doing it more for him to have a nice cake for his bday, more than to help her out. I know that may sound bad, but it's the truth... And he always raves about my cakes, especially the buttercream...tells everyone he knows to order cakes from me...and he's a sort of business consultant and was very helpful to me & DH when we were going to buy the bakery last month, even though the deal fell through.

She said she only needed a small-ish cake, nothing too big. Told her I'd have to do an 8-inch round because my 6-inch pans were on loan at the moment...fine, she said. It was going to be simple b/c he only likes plain cakes with BC for filling and icing. I had carte blanche on the decoration, it didn't have to be fancy. So I did the Golden Butter Cake from WBH, with bourbon vanilla BC filling/icing. For deco, I did reverse shell borders on top & bottom, swiss dot on the sides and did some over-piping on the shells and dots with a mossy green BC (so it'd look a little more masculine) and used the green for the writing and put an Icthus(sp?) (that's the Christian fish symbol) on the top - we're all Christians and he actually used to be an associate pastor for a while. She couldn't come pick it up, but she didn't want me to deliver it to her house either, but never really told my why when I asked about that. So we agreed to meet half-way for me to deliver the cake. Keep in mind that we live literally about 6 minutes from each other!? I was out of boxes, so I put the cake on one of my commercial half-sheet pans that was lined with non-skid material. Didn't bother covering it because it would only be in a car for a total of about 6 minutes, plus the time I had to wait at the meeting place....she was 10 minutes late. I had my 3 1/2 yr old and 18 month old with me....not fun. Then, after I put the cake in her car, she tells me she doesn't have any money with her...could she just pay me on Monday or Tuesday...what could I say except fine?

So, her DH loved the cake and appreciated the way I decorated it...called to thank me a few days later. Good. Two weeks go by and no payment from the wife or even a phone call. So I call to remind her...just left a nice msg saying 'In case you forgot, the cake was $20...and I really need my pan back as soon as you have a chance. If you come by the house & I'm not there, just leave it on the porch. Give me a call.', etc. Another week and no response, another week, still no $$, no phone call. I called another 2 times, but didn't leave msgs...why should I have to chase HER down for MY $$?? She has caller ID and knows I'm calling her and knows why I'm calling her. I know & she knows that she's avoiding me. I mentioned all of it to DH and told him how bothered I was...he was disturbed too that she hadn't at least called me & acknowledged the situation...so he took it upon himself a few days later to call her husband on his cell just to mention it to him and see if that would speed the process up a bit...considering it was the middle of MARCH!!! This had gone on for a whole month! So I get a msg from her one day saying that she'd answered her DH's phone when my DH called and she didn't know that I hadn't been paid yet, that she'd ASSUMED??? that her DH had taken care of it all. He later told my DH that he knew nothing about all of it. She said she'd pay me and give me my sheet pan at school the next week (our kids go to the same school, but we rarely see each other there) Of course, that didn't happen.