So I have to rant...even my b/f was annoyed at the whole thing and normally he pays no attention at all.

My b/f's sister had her wedding shower today, which I was invited to, but I had a prior engagement at exactly the same time, so I said I'd drop in after my thing was done. I show up and what's sitting there as the centerpiece, but this "not so pretty" cake. I was slightly annoyed, but thought maybe one of the ladies made it for her, so I tried not to let it bother me. Then, b/f's sister says "Oh Sam, isn't the cake pretty, it's from..." and she told me the name of the business in town that made it.

Now maybe it's just me, but hello? She KNOWS I make cakes because I bring them free ones (practice) all the time AND I'm doing her wedding in a couple months! Why on earth would she point out the fact that she's basically taking her business elsewhere.

Now yes, I realize I had a prior engagement, but for anyone that knows me, I put my cakes before (most) anything else and would have been happy to do it for her. The other "reasonable" explanation would be that one of the other women bought it and brought it to her. That may be, but I still think it was wrong to point it out that way.

Mostly, my feelings are hurt and I think maybe I'll think twice about making them free stuff in the future. Why buy the cow, right? Anyway, thanks for listening.

Samantha

I understand how you feel. People do that type of thing to me too. My only other thought is that maybe someone else bought it. Try not to let it bother you.

Gonna keep my mouth shut other than to say you had every right to be upset. Had that happen, never again. Hopefully, your bf will say something to her.

That is annoying! However, you are still doing the wedding cake (a more important cake) and they will all see what a difference in cakes - whoever bought the shower cake will be sorry they didn't ask you! Also, if they are anything like my family, they wouldn't want to "bother" you to do it knowing you had a previous engagement, even though you would drop anything to do a cake for them. Families....geesh!!

deb

I know how you feel ... my brother is getting married early this coming fall and I've offered to make their cake. I'd be honored to do it, actually, though it would be my first wedding cake. They told me that they hadn't gotten that far into the planning yet. Okay, fine, no problem.

So my niece's birthday came around and I offered to make her birthday cake - the castle cake in my gallery. One layer was yellow cake w/ bavarian creme filling, the other was devil's food with chocolate pudding filing. My brother's fiance had a piece of the chocolate layer and went on and on about how good it was, how moist, best cake she'd ever had, loved the MMF, etc. Then she had a bite of my slice (the yellow cake) and gushed more. I pretty much figured that I 'made the sale', so to speak.

Well, talking to my mom the other day, she mentioned that they were looking at caterers for the wedding and that they were going to meet with a couple over the next few weeks. So in chatting about it all, my mom let slip that along w/ caterers, they were going to 2 different bakeries for taste testings this weekend.

So i guess that, for whatever reason, they wont want me making their wedding cake. Which is fine, its their loss, as far as i'm concerned.

I'm sorry that you felt slighted, but look at it this way. If you make the wedding cake and everyone raves, you'll outshine that 'not so pretty cake' and yours will be the one that everyone remembers.

Good luck ... and just remember that unless you talk to her about it, you wont ever know exactly what she's thinking, so dont' try to figure it all out.

Jay

I agree, ya just never know how or what other people are thinkin'...if she is otherwise very nice and you 2 get along great, then she probly didnt see anything wrong with that...she probly didt realize how she was makin' you feel...dont take offense to it...blow them away with you fabulous wedding cake!
xoxoxo