Technically not in-laws, bf's family. I started doing cakes about a year ago and ended up taking my final Course II cake to a family dinner. BF's brother and brother's wife were in town. You'd just have to know them to really understand why they irk me, but in general they can justify everything that they do whether it's legal or not and somehow whenever they visit everybody stops their lives for them. Well, we all ate and everyone (well, almost everyone) had ooohed and aaahed over the cake with the bakset weave and flowers before dinner. Something like two people ate some and most of it was leftover. BF's brother proclaimed that he had cut out anything sweet altogether(I guess so he had more room for alcohol, nicotine, and weed). His wife just turned her nose up at it. That was one occasion.

Another time I made a cake especially for a big family dinner of theirs, brother and wife were there again and had brought friends. That cake went untouched all night. BF's mother said, "Well, I'm sure it's good." But you wouldn't know, would you?! I took it home completely pissed off. BF said that I took things too personally. How is one supposed to take that? And on top of all that, bf's mother is always telling me about things that brother's wife is baking. And I'm wondering why she is baking. Her husband doesn't eat it, she seems above eating baked goods. What's the point? They were visiting last month and I actually got to see something she had made. It wasn't so much cake as it was a big chunk of mud, let's just say. All I could think is "THIS is what his mother is bragging about?" I just shook my head. That's all I could do.

BF's mother was a serious health freak for a long while and his father apparently just doesn't eat sweet stuff hardly at all. That's why I don't make them anything anymore unless they ask, which they don't.

Sorry so long but venting is good.

Cheers,
Darci

so sorry. my in-laws have gotten better over the years, over the ten years, so if you get married to your bf there is hope. a little anyway. sorry again. dont give up.

Did they eat the brother's wife's chunk of mud?? If not then I wouldn;t take it too personally mayeb they just aren't sweet eaters ...which if this is the case I had NO idea there were actual people like that in the world......OH THE HORROR!!!!


but then again they are "in-laws"






I'm lucky my inlaws and my family all love sweets.......they just find other ways to get to me

I have lots of people in my family and circle of friends who avoid sweets like the plague. Some of them break down and eat my goodies and complain about me corrupting them. Others just totally ignore it. I try not to worry about it. I do it for me.

On the plus side, I know lots of people who could eat a half a cake at a sitting, so I like to think it evens out over time.

i like that ...........i HATE my in-laws

I guess I'm lucky, My in laws have always been more supportive than my own mother. UH OH, here we are on that subject again! Thats not really lucky is it?

Outlaws it is then! Fantastic. It's funny because bf's dad always says that at their family reunions they check for guns and if you don't have one they assign one to you.

yikes!!!!!!!!!! LOL I say take your cakes where they're appreciated!! There are tons of people in this world who will eat your cakes..........I'm one of them LOL

i guess i am in the minority here. i have been divorced about 7 years & still get along with my exes family & talk to them often. now my bf's family...that's a different story

edited to say : i'm with the others, it's hard to believe there are people out there that don't like sweets , my family's always begging me to bring them a cake. i wouldn;t let them get you down. save your time & ingredients for someone that will apprrciate it.

This would be so frustrating to have to deal with. Guess I got lucky, I get along very well both with my own family and all my in-laws. Some family members tell me this is "just plain weird" lol.

Don't let people like your bf's family get to you! Sounds to me like they are just JEALOUS of your talent! You will become an expert one day and honey they will be begging for you to bake for them just so they can say our daughter-in-law is very talented! REMIND THEM when the day comes and honey it will come!

Keep Smilin' and Keep Bakin'!

I know your in-law pain. It's hard to grin and bear it... do we really have a choice?

Most people that tell me they don't eat (our cake) sweets are the following:

It makes their teeth hurt
It's too sweet
They rather drink beer
It will make you fat
Whatever!

For me, "it taste so good, can't get enough of homemade decorated cake"

I say don't bake anything anymore-if someone says something just tell them you thought you would give someone else the honor-or that you have been too busy with doing others that you are just a bit burned out at the moment ..it's a white lie I know but ya know-you can only endure so much ignorence in people. My MIL was wonderful-some of the other family however-lets just say I introduced her as my mil and the others as "my dh's whatever "-but I wouldn't let it get to you-I know easier said than done-but keep your chin up=we are all here for ya!

I think they must be just jealous and basically rude! The least they can do it humor you and take a "sliver" (I love The Sliver People - more for me!). They can poke away all they want at it, but at least make you feel welcome.....The all great and powerful Oprah once said that it took her many years to figure out that all most people want is just to be acknowledged. They should've given you that courtesy.

That said, if BF turns into DH, make sure first that you can deal with that for a LOOOOOOng time, sucky people don't change just because you married their son/brother/etc!!!

What's the difference between in-laws and outlaws?


Outlaws are wanted!


Ba Da Bump!

Beachcakes, LOL you're too funny!

AND YOU CAN GET PAID FOR OUTLAWS!! $$$$$-INLAWS CAN COST YOU $$$-divorce, etc.

I will never understand people who are so health conscious - they never want cake - ever. It's like, come on...one piece here and there is not going to make you fat or clog your arteries!!!! I'm asking them to lighten up not fatten up lol. They act like one piece is going to make them balloon and ruin their lives. It makes me so happy when everyone wants cake.. and that one person who doesn't...I just glare and wonder WHY as if they are conspiring against my cake. LOL I know I'm an over reactor!

You know.. That is one thing about my MIL she brags about my baking.. BUT some people just have alot of envy!!! That bad envy, you know they don't want to see you succeed in anything. The ones that just look at your stuff, don't say a word and walk away. Knowing it looks damn good!!! My sister believes (superstitious) that if you place an aloe vera plant at the front of your house (by door) and back door..That all the bed evil envy that people bring gets destroyed... OMG I did it.. And the one in the front died!! I was like.. If I really really believe in this one, I think I just need to place a sign that reads" Don't like it, don't look at it and get the hell out!"

For what it's worth...here's my take on this: I don't care how health conscious you are or what lame excuse you may have. It is rude. Take a freakin' piece of cake and try it. ( I agree with the "sliver" poster ) Suck it up. I've done it millions of times when I was stuffed or just didn't want to try something...but you know what? When someone made something and they are offering it to you, what makes you think it's okay to send them back home with the cake that they brought over to share with you????

Sorry. People just get to me sometimes. And also, I whole-heartedly agree with a previous poster that said family gets harder to deal with after you get married. Look out. I think I would kill my husband if he didn't make everyone in that room try the cake.

I just took my first cake class a month ago so I can learn how to decorate a cake for my baby's first birthday. I spent all night on it. (I'll add the pic to my gallery when I get a chance today) I was soooo proud of it. It was 3 tiers. Flowers all around. I even made fondant butterflies that I placed on it. There were about 24 people over and I got so many compliments...except from my in-laws. My FIL didn't even want a piece. And it tasted great! Thanks to all the great advice I got, I torted it and used frosting and raspberry preserve filling between white cake layers. I just don't understand why people have to be like that.

And you know what...even if your cake looked horrible...they STILL should have said something nice and tried a piece. I mean, seriously, can you really trust someone that doesn't like cake????

Angie

Well, I am sorry about this situation...

I can say that I have the same problem, because my in laws I mean all of them LOVE sweets and every time I make cakes they just hover over them...

The only one that complaints (mainly to aggravate me) is my husband's nephew... He says that I need to "learn" to make cakes like Plublix or Winn Dixie's... that my cakes are too moist for him....

Like I said, he says that to bother me but on the other hand he truly loves supermarket cakes.. I have nothing against them but I can't make those kind of cakes...

I can't seem to get my MIL to go home! Friends say I'm being too nice but how can I be mean to a 80-year-old lady? She washes my clothes without being asked (and shrinks my 100% rayon clothes in the washer and say's "just pull it to stretch it out") washes my dishes by hand and since she can't see well, leaves food & grease all over them (even though I have a dishwasher), etc. I going CRAZY!!!!!!!!! So I sympathize with everyone with in-law horror stories. Muse, where can I get one of those guns? LOL

Chris J,You know when you get that age your turning into a little kid again... with all the bad habits. I tease my parents about looking after them. Sorry to get off the subject Muse. I am in need of an outlaw gun though, I have a few relatives that try my patience.

Just keep doing what you do. I had that problem with my in-laws. I don't know how it is with everyone else's family but with mine social status is a major issue at times. Since no one thought of me as being within the "clique" no one acknowledged anything they knew I had contributed to the gathering or party. Anyway, perhaps I have too much time on my hands but I took my product to all of their snotty friends without my in-laws knowing that I had even crossed paths with them. Their friends were hooked immediately on the cakes and pies. So at the next gathering with in-laws and coincidentally the snotty friends since it was a wedding rehersal dinner, all of the friends continued to devour and praise the goodies I had brought. Because of that, somehow pieces of the same sweets that my in-laws had refused to even sample ended up on their plates as they joined their friends in agreement that they were pretty good desserts. The best part of the night was that my in-laws in keeping up with the "Jones" (or the Rochafellers in this case) also approached me to ask for the recipes for the very same sweets they were willing to throw away prior to that dinner. I just smiled and told them how I made this recipe for a homeless shelter and they told me my in-laws would love it.

In-laws.... okay, so I have a huge family, and so does my husband. My family is in everyone's business, and we all just laugh and talk about everything. My husband's family on the other hand is very hush-hush. So, it takes getting used to. Well, for my mother-in-law's birthday, I decided that I would be a great daughter-in-law (the only one she is going to get -- she has 4 girls and 1 boy). So, I called and set the whole thing up with her sister and her daughters. We had the plan -- because we live in Georgia, and they live in Florida. Well, I stressed over the cake, and tried to make it just perfect for her. (She absolutely just LOVES my cakes, or so she says) So, we go down to visit, and I pack the cake for the 8 hour trip -- making sure my husband doesn't hit the brakes, etc! Well, we get there, and they decided to move the party until the next night. Okay, the cake will still be fresh. So, I left it at that. Then, the next night comes and goes -- all the while I'm badgering my husband that the cake is going bad -- and no party! Finally, the third night we have the party, and when we go in the room, there is the cake that I made, and a store bought cake sitting beside it!!!!! I totally freaked out! I mean, what in the heck?!?! I was so upset. My cake wasn't as fresh as I liked and I was totally hurt. When I told my husband he said "someone must not have told everyone, and someone else brought a cake". I know it was just an excuse. But, it didn't help my feelings! I swore I would never bring anything else again -- or help to pay for a store bought one either!!!!!!

So, I completely understand the in-laws! And I agree with everyone above... you eat it, if you don't like it, don't eat it all, but at least try it!

In-laws....... what would marriage be without them? Heaven?!?! LOL

I have to disagree with some of the people saying that you should take a piece no matter what.

My boyfriend and most of his family is diabetic. That little sliver could wreak havoc on their health.

Why waste a piece or risk your heath just to make somebody feel better?

I will tell you that even though they don't eat the cake, my boyfriend and his mother always compliment my on how beautiful the cake looks, and my boyfriend is big on 'smell' he sniffs EVERYTHING! And if I have a cake that smells good to him, he compliments me on it.

But then again, I know not to make cakes and sugary stuff for my boyfriend and his family, so if for some reason I make something and they don't eat it, I don't get my panties all in a knot over it.

I am in know way saying that the person had any right to be rude about the cake though, I just think anybody should get angry just because they don't eat the cake.