Maybe I don't have the right to be. My sister-in-law had a little party for my nephew on Saturday. He has graduated from the Air Traffic Controller School (he's in the Marines). Anyway, I asked her if she wanted me to bring a cake or anything. She said no she had everything. We got there and she had a cake that she had ordered from Kroger or somewhere. It was awful. They had tried to draw the Marine logo on the top and it looked bad. I'm not even getting into the taste of it. She spent $26.00 on this cake. She knows that I do cakes. I even offered to do the cake as a gift for him. Like I said, maybe I don't have the right to be peeved but it felt almost like an insult to me.

Gilson6,

I think I would probably take it personally as well, but sometimes people will do that just because they don't want to put you out. I don't know your SIL, but maybe she didn't want you to have to do anything but come and enjoy the party! (And eat Yucky Cake! LOL)

You just never know what is going on in someone's head!

Sorry you had to be exposed to one of "those" cakes!

I agree with Sherry. She probabaly just wanted you there. Not having to do any 'work'. Don't feel offended. Everybody doesn't like the same thing. For all we know, nephew asked for the Kroger cake? Maybe he likes the flavor?

Never try to figure out your inlaws. It just causes headaches I find. (sometimes easier said then done)

kos

Gilson6, you have the right to feel peeved! I would. But the others have a point as well, maybe he did like that cake (Marine's aren't known for their gourmet tendancies - when my brother was one he pretty much lived on pizza and wings and beer for 4 years. More like a frat house than anything else!). And true also, don't bother trying to figure out the in-laws, but don't be afraid to keep asking for different occasions! Sooner or later maybe they'll 'get it'!

I don't think everyone sees the difference between grocery store stuff and homemade. My cousin-in-law once told me that icing is icing, I don't think she meant it as an insult but that is how she sees it.
Unless your SIL is lucky enough to live very close to where your nephew is stationed she probably had alot going on with him being home and it might not have occured to her that you would be hurt. Service men don't get home very often and it's always hectic when they are. Take this from an Army brat with a brother in the Navy, last time my brother made it home for a couple days no one even told me.
I would have taken you up on the cake because I hate grocery store cakes .

I wouldn't take it personally. After being invited to many parties and dinners, I'm always very glad and thankful when I don't have to bring a dish to pass or a cake or anything. I LOVE letting other people do all the work--I wouldn't have minded the Kroger cake one bit! I have enough things I have to do without adding another cake that wouldn't really be appreciated. Enjoy your time off duty!

I don't know which is worse, them buying a cake from someplace, or always expecting a free cake. I think, probably the first. At least if they wanted a free cake, you would know they wanted YOURS! I would be hurt and probably a little peeved too. Especially since you offered!

Gilson6: When my sister in law calls me for a cake for my nephews she always apologizes even though I told her that I would do them as a gift. I think she knows how much work goes into them & doesn't want to bother me. Your cakes look like you put alot of time & effort in them & maybe she didn't want to put you out even though you offered. You do beautiful work by the way...I would order a cake from you

Makes me think about people and taste. A lot of people don't have taste - I don't mean 'classy', I mean they can't tell the difference between McDonalds and fine dining. Our cakes are fine dining!

I prefer to pay for decent food, than fast food - so I opt for our cakes any time rather than Walmart/Krogers, etc.

Thanks for all the support. I didn't mention this to my DH because he would support her decision. He really doesn't see the difference between store bought cakes and mine. He's not very encouraging in this endeavor.