To this day....even at 31!!!! She has to critisize EVERYTHING I do......me as a mother....a child....a woman anything I do!!! I just started decorating cakes and cookies...I've baked forever but just begining with all this......anyway right off the bat the very first thing I made was a hamburger cake for my son......" oh that is NOT the right brown"......the boys duck cake "ummm why did you add bubbles"........and if she doesn't nitpick something she says......" oh I'm so proud of you but you still need a lot of practice".........I finally got my roses to look like roses and was extremely proud ...her response? " they look pretty but you need to practice practice practice and make them tighter"!!!! ......As if she knows a damn thing about how to do any of it ANYWAY !!!!




I will admit I'm not the best at taking critical comments......but I'm 20 times more sensitive with her!!!



Sorry/..............had to vent it all out!!
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I understand!!! I have a mother that is very critical also.I let it go in one ear and out the other..easier said than done I know!!! Cheer up...You have lots of support here and we always think your cookies and cakes are great!!

my Mom is the same way. Last family get together she went on and on about how great Costco cakes are. HELLO!!!! Your own freakin daughter does cakes!!! And then she treats me like I am some hick from the sticks for enjoying cake decorating! I guess I needed to vent too!

here here!!!!! my mother is staying with us while hubby is gone.......OMG she's driving me nuts too!

Wow it's scarry how we all seem to have the same mother! Believe me, I know how you feel. I went through the same thing for years. Then I read somewhere that you can't really control how someone thinks, but you can change your reaction or how you think. That's what I did, it took time, but eventually I was able to let it roll off my back and kept my eye on the prize, er, the cake!

VENT AWAY.............!!!!!


MY MOTHER IN LAW JUST GOT HERE!!!!!!!!!




MY GOD COULD THIS DAY GET ANY WORSE???????????

I have to say that I don't know how you feel because my mother is always so supportive of everything I do. Sorry you're having such a hard time with her. Maybe from now on, just don't show her anything anymore. Show your new things to people you know will be supportive!

Just thank your lucky stars you are not my brother...he lives in the third floor apartment, our mother lives in the second floor apartment, and his mother in law(who owns the house) lives in the first floor apartment. Yes, that's right he has his mother and mother in law in one house, I'll admit it I laugh at him often.

Oh wow.... thats funny.....

my mother supports me too....but she gives her opinions way too much and thats what I was talking about.

oh that is SOOO funny poor thing..........hope he finds a new place to live when he has kids!!!! My advice....head out of town

I am with you flayvurdfun, I try not to act like my Mother as I age. She can really hurt your feelings. I showed her all of my cakes from a CD and she didn't get excited over any of them. She says she doesn't like all of that icing! As for myself I Love It too much! I will eat the icing over the cake. I must be addicted to icing! I get excited when I see the cakes that all of you decorate.

this is so funny to read that everyone goes through the same thing!!

In 1990, when I was 16 and my parents when on vacation to California...I threw a party at home...LIKE EVERY OTHER KID ON THE PLANET DID OR WOULD AS A TEENAGER!!!

Last week, my parents stated that they were going on holidays and I volunteered to check in on the house while they were gone. My mother actually hesitated and said in all seriousness that she would prefer my older sister did, as she didn't want to worry that I may have another party??!!

That was SIXTEEN YEARS AGO!!

I assured her my friends would be more likely to bring over a baked brie than a keg of beer nowadays. She went ahead and asked my sister the next day. What a riot!

I have 3 sisters. 2 of them are so supportive and complimentary. The other one...OMG. She has never said the words "I'm sorry" together in a sentence. She has never uttered a nice word. She will walk into your house and tell you everything you need to do and why your house needs her 'special touches' and expertise. I have 'too many candles, it is overkill'. Or 'I would hang this here instead of there, trust me it will look way better than how you have it'. I could go on all day. We all have people like that in our lives I guess.

My mom decorated cakes for us when we were kids so she's wonderful about me doing it all the time now but my MIL is the problem. I recently made a corset cake and she told me that people were going to think it was an alien and that it needed to be lacier, I didn't want lacy. She's also giving me "great" ideas for my cakes when I have already decided what to do for the cake she's talking about. Mind you the woman has no idea what a #16 tip is.
She loves to tell us what to do in our house, even when we both tell her it's not going to happen she keeps trying to get us to do it.
She has flat out told me I have too many cake things and don't need anymore . I don't see how it's her buisness since we don't live with her.

I love my mom, but lucky for me she moved to Florida a couple of years ago - can only nag me via e-mail now! LOL!!! So far I think I have surprised her with what I am doing with decorating, so no negative comments.....yet!

deb

My mom was ( deceased) a very country and plain woman , while she would have thought my cakes pretty...she would have thought it a lot of fru-fru... and when ever she made a cake it was awesome tasting but I am certain that she never worry much about the looks!

oh don't get me started on mother in laws!!! Mine LOOOOOOOOOOOVES to interfere with our kids!!! But way further than any grandmother could take it!!! She loves to draw the line of which kids are mine and which are my husbands!!! can you guess which she favors??? Give you a hint....it isn't the twins which are both of ours!!!





But I will give her this.............she NEVER says a cross word about anything I decorate or bake.........which is surprising!!! She has been very supportive of it and very complimentive (sp)

Oh, wow, this just must be part of the human experience. My mother is a basket full of quirks too. I think there is a certain thing between mothers and daughters where emotions get escalated so quickly....they still have so much power over our emotions. My mom always has to get a word in too; I am learning (as I am getting older) to just chalk it up to: that's mom!! It's not always so easy. When I was 31, I lived at home for a very brief period of time when I was transitioning jobs. I once had a disagreement with her to the point of her grabbing my arms and trying to prevent me from leaving the room after deciding I'd had enough of the disagreement. (I am 5'11, well over 250....mom is 5'4 and 130.....can you see the comedy??) I have joked from then on about the day mom opened up a can of whoop a** on me when I was 31.
I know its hard, but maybe cut off from showing her your cakes and keep that part of your life your private adult life. If she says anything to you when she does see your cakes, just tell her: "thanks mom, I'll take that into consideration." (that's my adopted catch phrase!!)
Good luck with it all!!

Of Course we love our mothers and are lucky to have them. Everyone needs to vent some times One day my daughter will be venting about me, except I'm perfect and don't make any parenting mistakes

I agree with mommyedzards................EXCEPT it won't be my daughter....I'm afraid it will be my sons wives venting about me!!!


hahha just kidding...I vowed not to be that mil!!!


I will teach my daughter now to tell me later to shut up(in a nice way of course ) if I do this to her!!!

I feel so blessed because I have very supportive and loving Mother & MIL. My Mom actually lives next door and we still talk on the phone every day. She taught me to decorate and helps me with cakes when I've got too much going on.

I'm sorry you guys have such negative feelings in your families. I would hate to have a bunch of turmoil around me all the time.

Jenn, we all love our moms! It is not so negative as it is "button-pushing" shall I say. My mother embodies true Christian principles and is singlehandedly the most caring, loving person I know. She just has her quirks, as do I! We just love each other so much that things get oversensitive and blown out of proportion and who knows what can happen!! Believe me, the minute I am tired or sick, she is over with dinner or Chicken soup!!

I'm so sorry that your mother talks to you that way twinsline7. I just looked at your cakes, and you're doing great!!! I love all you cakes. By the way, my twins just turned 3!

thanks lemondrop.............congrats to your babies!!! Mine are on their way to 2!!!! May the force be with me!!!!


I kno wmy mother doesn't mean it to be hateful....she just likes to be the reason for everything...hahha....she bought me my starter kit...therefore she is the reason I am doing cakes and cookies......REGARDLESS of the fact that I was doing it a year before she bought it! So if she gives pointers and I get better.......she is the reason for that!! .........I'll let her have it.......its just when it starts to get out of control and starts to believe she is the icing Queen and know all of baking that I will have to come and vent !!!