I made the Wilton classic white cake last night for a tasting this weekend. I gave a small piece of the dome to DH and he made a face and spit it out! Then he tells me that it's disgusting!!! I just wanted to kill him!!! My daughters tried it and liked it, so I really think it was just him!!

He apologized, but it doesn't make it go away!! He says that he didn't mean to say that, and that he didn't intentionally hurt my feelings. He says he didn't like it because he only likes chocolate cake, but he has eaten my french vanilla and yellow cake before. I just feel hurt and upset, and now I find myself doubting everything he tells me.

I told him last night that I was going to quit baking and decorating cakes. In one little sentence, he has made me doubt my abilites and talents as a decorator.

What would ya'll do?

Kick him in the butt and sell him!!

If he is a chocolate lover maybe it is just white cake he doesn't like. At the same time I think he was judging Wiltons recipe not you personally. If you had made a scratch cake from a recipe that you had created or invented yourself and you got that reaction from him, then you might have a reason to feel hurt. You didn't invent this recipe, Wilton did. Think about it as a reaction to their recipe, not to your own work.

You are going to throw in the towel and give up something you love doing because you got this reaction from him? Heck no! Who are you going to hurt by doing that, him or yourself. So, the next time you need a taste tester use your child and not your husband.

Maybe it is the cake!! The recipe might not be suitable for his tastes. I wouldn't let this stop me from decorating, especially if you were just trying a new recipe. That has absolutely nothing to do with your decorating ability. It just may be that this particular recipe is not right for him.

Different strokes for different folks. I make a yellow and a chocolate cake most frequently. The ones who love chocolate rave about the chocolate cake, but are just "ok" with the yellow. The ones that aren't chocoholics like myself really love the yellow and I don't care for it at all. I know it came from hubby so it makes it hard to take, but I would try not to take it to heart too much and definately don't give up because of one person's comment! I know kids like anything sweet, but even my 3.5 year old will tell me if something I make sucks lol. So I'd say go with your kids opinions!

Don't give up something you love. Not everyone is gonna like everything. We all have different tastes. So what if Hubby doesn't like that paticular flavor? Is the world gonna end? NO! You are a great decorator with a lot of talent. I only wish I had your talent. My cakes are still hit and miss. Please don't stop because of one little incident.

Not to be rude, but if you didn't want (or couldn't take) his honest opinion, why ask?

If you bite his head off for not liking a cake (for whatever reason) then you are making it so he will lie to you in the future. Did YOU taste the cake? if so, and you liked it, then don't worry about him. He is one opinion, and if it was honest, not malicious, then it isn't his fault.

I love mushrooms, my boyfriend hates them. People have different tastes.

Maybe it was the icing. If you used the class icing, I know a lot of people who do not like it with just the shortening and not butter. I think it has kind of a greasy taste and feel.

*I* wouldn't worry about it for two seconds.

My DH is a pie/custard guy; he hates cake. I've fed him Toba Garrett's and Sylvia Weinstock's and Rose Levy Berenbaum's and Tish Boyle's cakes, and he'll gamely try a bite (and these are GOOD cakes!) and then make a face and act like he's been fed a glob of styrofoam and then act like he's trying to spit it out, and then ask for (insert lisp) "thum milk pleathe"...I always want to smack him, but I know he's just not the one to taste test cakes. He's not truly serious, (he knows he'll get a rise out me when he does that), but he seriously doesn't care for cake. And he'll only consider eating a cake if it's not white and has IMBC on it; anything else is disgusting to him...tho he will on occasion scarf down plain chocolate cake that I make from Ina Garten's gook. Go figure.

He's my biggest supporter; he's just not a cake fan. *shrug*

Don't quit. If it was a new recipe, I'd rather have an honest first impression of the flavor anyway...plus (ahem) Wilton's not exactly known for high quality of flavor in their products.

Don't let one person decide your future in the cake baking and decorating business, no matter how much you love them. Everyone has different tastes and are fickle. Maybe his taste buds were off when he tried it. If this is the first time this has happened, then it was just an off day and you are allowed to have them. It probably wasn't as disgusting as he made it seem, but it also hurts worst because he's your DH. Besides, I've seen your cakes and you'd be crazy to let one comment make you quit. You are really good.

Just give him a good kick in the butt for being so insensitive. I love my DH to death, but somedays he just doesn't realize what he says and how he says until it's too late. I have a special pair of shoes just for him. Ha ha! So keep up the good work and we look forward to seeing more of your beautiful cakes.

Stephanie

I agree- he wasn't insulting you...he just didn't like the recipe. That's good to know! But if you and your daughters truly thought it was good...then majority rules (until you find something you like better).

I wouldn't make him feel guilty for being honest....just tell him to be a little less theatrical in his reactions next time!

As for me, I've never met a doctored white mix I didn't like :O) Good luck!

Try not to take it personally as difficult as it may be, we all want to get the thumbs up on everything we make - that is human nature. Pemember you asked for his opinion and he gave it to you honestly and you should be glad that he did .

Bury him in the backyard!

Is he rude and insensitive most of the time? If so, then it is just his nature, and needs to be put out to pasture. If not, then maybe try the recipe again another time and see if he still thinks that it is dusgusting. If so, ditch the recipe, at least where he is concerned, but whatever you do with the recipe, DON'T stop doing cakes! Does he criticize your other cakes and the way you decorate them? If so, and you still love it, then tell him to eat a booger. If not, then it was just that particular flavor.

Chin up. I make things at my restaurant that my husband finds disgusting, like chicken and dumplings. He thinks they are disgusting, but when we sell out at lunch and the plates go to the sink licked completely clean, I just look at him with complete satisfaction that my work was not disgusting.

Now I'm really curious, what does the "D" in DH stand for now? I'd have substituted s word or two lol.

If it makes you feel better my DH told me the other day "why don't you make a cookie that taste good". I have been making ALOT of decorated sugar cookies lately and I know he doesn't like sugar cookies but HEY SHUT UP!! you know damn well he'll be more than happy to spend the money I make selling this horrible cookies.
I do ask him to look at them 'cause I get excited when the come out looking nice but he is VERY HONEST about either the word isn't centered or there is something else not PERFECT about it. Most days I do wish to club him to death with my cookie sheet
so, you are not alone
tara

Isn't it better that your dh spits it out and says disgusting than a customer? If everyone else is honest and they like it...don't worry about it.

Well, he didn't like the recipe. No biggie. Don't doubt anything he says - he's obviously going to tell you the truth! It's no reflection on you or your skills, it's simply not a recipe he cares for. Don't take it personally - if you ask a man a question, you get an answer in its purest form. Not muddled up by feelings or politeness, and in my opinion it's the best form of criticism.

(I always as my DH if an outfit looks okay on me because I know he'll answer truthfully. I've never walked out of the house with jeans that make my butt look big!)

I dunno - you asked his opinion and he gave it to you. so he didn't like it - now you know. Why would it make you doubt yourself?

His taste buds are screwed up.

So...who appointed him the Cake God?

Trust your own taste!

Yuk - White Cake

. . .but keep in mind that some people don't even like cake. I personally don't rave over cake and he may not either. It's nothing personal.

I worked really hard on my husband's birthday cake... made fondant for first time, made marzipan,etc. etc. He thought it was beautiful and loved it. Ate one piece and then didnt see him eating any more. Finally he admitted to me that it tasted like medicine. It was a nice coconut cake. I had used cooked coconut pudding for the filling and I think it may have spoiled. Only out one day but still. I was very hurt and said those same thilngs but I got over it and now I am going to be more careful about my fillings.

Men are just hopeless when it comes to giving opinions. Just don't ask him again. Or tell him the answer in the question, that way he can't go wrong: 'I think this is lovely, what do you think?' Then he'll just agree with you - they're simple creatures, much like pets.

Sometimes people just open their mouths before they engage their brains. I'm sure your DH had no intentions of hurting your feelings. If he did have those intentions then shame on him!

At Thanksgiving my daughter's inlaws brought 4 different bottles of wine for dinner. Not being a wine drinker I politely refused a glass. After dinner I decided to take a chance and try a sip out of my daughter's glass. I spit it everywhere and said, "That's gross!" I thought my daughter was going to fall out of her chair, she was so shocked. For those who think this is no big deal--WRONG. Her inlaws have started a winery and they had made this wine. I think I will omit inviting them to Thanksgiving this year--I'm sure I'm still in the doghouse. One of those cases where my brain was not engaged.

Another case of asking, "Do these jeans make my butt look big?" I'd rather not know. Forgive the DH after making sure he knows how he hurt your feelings. Tell him a nice dinner out would be a good apology.

Diane