stepping on a bakers toes??? - Page 2

See now this is where I have a problem with wedding cakes. Actually it's more the brides and their mothers I dread dealing with, not to mention the enormous stress involved. I hate doing things I don't like myself. I I wouldn't want some hideous junk on my cakes. I feel the final result is a reflection on me as the creator/decorator, even if the bride doesn't blab my name to all her guests. I wouldn't put ribbon on a cake that has glitter on it that could fall onto the cake. I would suggest she choose a ribbon with sparkles in the fabric to get the affect she wants and let her know I would not put actual glitter on my cake because of the health hazard. Glitter on ribbon will mean glitter ON the cake period. Of course if a bride tells me she just wants a plain cake and later "sneaks" her own stuff on it I can't control that but I wouldn't be happy about it. I have no problem letting a potential customer know how I feel about my work being a reflection on me. If I made a cake and found out it had been altered later I would never do another job for that person.

I try to get a good idea what a bride/customer wants before I even sit down to talk about it with them. In a lot of cases I believe they can be redirected towards something more tasteful and in others they don't know what they want. In my case (and inexperience) I let them know what I have done by showing them my album. If what they want is way beyond my expertice or something I have no desire to learn I let them know it isn't something I do. I'm doing this because I enjoy it and it isn't my livlihood, so I can afford to be very particular. I have a form to use (thanks to someone here) for planning wedding cakes. It covers everything and will be very helpful. I adjusted it a little for my use and will use it next time a wedding cake order comes up.

In this particular case it sounds to me as if maybe this baker isn't happy about someone elses creation going on his/her cake. I can't blame the baker. I'd feel the same. Those hydrangeas are just beauitful! (were they hard to learn?) Why didn't they just ask you to run down there and make the whole cake? Texas isn't THAT far from Missouri. I'm in Kansas.

Hey m0use dont you mean that is a MOUSE of a different color .....hehehehehehehehe
and I agree with cali but I would find it hard to say no to family, and I would do it, show her your suggestions where to place them... its ashame you're not going..... it would be so much easier then!

Well my 3 cents worth...

I would go ahead and do it!!! Calidawn is right.It is now up to the bride to find someone to do it or either put the flowers on herself! I'm sure it will look just fine.I'm sure the bride woudn't go through all the trouble to get you to make special flowers only to entrust someone incapable of putting them on the cake to make it look finished...Relax....send the flowers packed up.our Aunty will ensure they arrive in tact.

Refusing to place glitter on a cake due to health issues is much different than refusing to place something on a cake just because you don't personally like it. Very different. Placing an item on a cake has nothing to do with our style of decorating. And it still boils down to who am I to tell them they have bad taste? Obviously, they like it.

I once DJ'd a wedding reception where all the bride wanted was Oakridge Boys and Statler Brothers. I knew this would not go over well with the guests. But that's what the bride wanted. I explained until I was blue in the face (to the bride) people will not remember how beautiful everything was, only that the music was limited. She still insisted. So that's all I played. People were bored... but that's what the bride wanted- Oakridge Boys and Statler Brothers- only! It's her reception, if she enjoyed it, I guess she's OK with the outcome.

If they want an ugly cake (ugly to me may not be ugly to others) it's their choice. Someone has to make it for her. Other DJ's turned her down. I would hope I could find people to help fulfill my odd requests for my special day. I had photographers turn us down simply because we were a same-sex couple. I will never do that to anyone... turn them down because their tastes are different than mine. Pain is pain, hurt is hurt and rejection is rejection.

Honestly, I pride myself that customers can count on me to help make their day special- when others have turned them down... even if it means using someone else's gumpaste on my cake, playing only 2 bands at a reception or playing Paradise by the Dashboard Light as the bridal song (yep! Really happened!). It's not my day, I'm being hired to help them make their day just what they want it to be. My pride must be placed to the side... and it's never kept me from getting further work.

Lively discussion, just wanted to say that your flowers are lovely, the bride should get what she wants and since the baker won't accomodate her and you will, well it is a win/win for the bride.
Regarding transporting the flowers, they do really well in the larger bubbled, bubble plastic along witt the styrofoam peanuts and such packing materials, I have never had one break when in that.
Good luck!
Hugs Squirrelly Cakes

I have something similar coming up, but a ways off. I don't mind making the cake, getting it to the reception for them to put their flowers or whatever they want on it. It's their cake, they paid for it, it's what they want. Period. And I agree with cali4dawn, no preferences or prejudices, the health issue is a different matter though.

The only dilemma I have found for me, was doing a cake I wasn't comfortable with, like an "X"-rated type of cake. I am just plain not comfortable doing them, so I don't. I don't mean it as placing a judgement on anyone, I just don't feel comfortable doing those kinds of cakes. And feeling like that, well, I don't think it is such a good idea. Partly because I would likely end up with more orders for this type of cake and end up feeling even more uncomfortable.
As far as who I would make cakes for and for what occasions, well basically I will make a cake for anyone that is nice. Sounds funny I know, but I don't like to place myself in a situation where I can see problems coming up with a certain customer, so I try to avoid these people.
As far as their taste in cakes, well it is their cake and their day, so whatever style or colours or whatever they chose, I try to respect that and make them happy. When I know something is a bad idea, well I will tell them so and be upfront about it.
Hugs Squirrelly Cakes

MSMEG,

How much do you charge for your Hydrengas? If you are willing to ship, I am willing to buy. I have no idea how to make them or use gumpaste. So purchasing them from you would be wonderful.

Let me know...


mrsfish