I've been lurking but I just had to offer a bit of support since I cake decorate and have tiny tots myself. This is neither dh nor your fault. It isn't your fault. Tots are explorers and can't help it. It is no different than if she got into the medicine cabinent and took bad medicine and you had to rush her to the ER, which believe me I have both been to the ER (blood in urine from bladder infection), called an ambulance (daughter swallowed newspaper rubber band and stopped breathing,) and called poison control (bottle of SEALED Nyquil in VERY high cabinent that she climbed to get and figured out how to open!) We can only be so careful but it is a big bad world out there and they will have to figure it out sooner or later. And it is better sooner under the watchful eye of both mommy and daddy (who have things to save their lives at home.) And both dh and I have yelled at the other for seeming miscalculations but we both realize later when we've calmed down that we over reacted. It sounds like you guys have worked it out. But I agree with everyone in finding away around her allergies instead of giving up what you love.
Life is unsure- eat dessert first.
Life is unsure- eat dessert first.








