And SOME relatives just don't get it...no matter what. They're nervey and pushy and annoying. Always were, always will be. Even when they're helping, they have to be controlling. Ugh.
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Sun Aug 02, 2009 9:53 pm
Butterpatty wrote:
Compared to what I have heard some people say in public about other's children, I think the OP was fairly restrained.
My son was (oh, thank you, Lord) a fairly well-behaved child. However, once in Target he threw a horrible fit over a toy, head-butted his dad in the -ummm- privates and fell to the floor screaming and kicking. I politely and calmly lifted him to his feet and began walking him towards the nearest restroom (unfortunately that was all the way across the store). A lady looked down her nose at us and commented to a woman who was with her that "that little boy is a demon; she needs to deal with him now". I paused, turned to her, and said, "I AM dealing with him. We are headed to the bathroom for an exorcism right now, thank you very much." The "exorcism" apparently worked because he never pulled another stunt like that again!
I've only ever had to perform an "exocism" once & that was my oldest.
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jonahsmom wrote:
OMG! I was just asked to do an awesome cake (don't know what I'm gonna do yet) for our upcoming family reunion and now I'm SCARED!!!! I'm pretty sure our gene pool IS polluted...but I've seen the parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins all lay the smack down when kids are doing something they shouldn't. Us rednecks don't let the kids get away with nothin'!
Let me tell you, I'm from a very liberal California & used to be shocked (and no, I'm not trying to be racist, just stating what I ALWAY observed growing up) at how the white kids used to treat there parents. I would see little kids literally jump on their parents backs, hitting & kicking at them, from the teenagers just cursing at their parents like it wasn't nothing. I used to be SHOCKED! But then I moved to the good "ol South" and let me tell you, these white people don't PLAY! The first time I ever went to a store here & saw this kid attempt to act a fool, that father was real clear cut about giving him the business, and he was loud about it.
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And by the way, I don't hold kids accountable for their behavior, I hold the parents. I have 7 kids from 8 months to 18 years old (I guess she shouldn't count anymore, shes off to college ) and I don't expect my 3 year old to always know not to touch like the older kids. I expect myself to keep an eye out for the 3 babies.
When my boys reached the age of three and could understand a bit more, I would have "Manners Week" with them. That meant that for a whole week the proper way to behave and speak and act towards others at home and in public was repeated to them a trillion times, and if they forgot, it was repeated again. Over the years there have had to be refresher courses, but they were few and far between. What was interesting (and sad, I guess), was that there were so many live examples of how "not" to act whenever we were out somewhere for them to see. I would also tell my boys that you "look with your eyes, not your hands". The older one just turned 21 and the younger one is 11, and I am proud to say that they are both well-mannered and were never considered by others to be "Demon Spawn".
Parents need to be parents. If that makes you unpopular, even with your own children, so be it. I have told my kids that I am not their friend, I am their parent. They have their own friends and I have mine. We need to be respectful and considerate of each other, but we don't need to be BFFs. When they have kids of their own, hopefully they'll understand and appreciate the fact that you were only trying to make them good, responsible, courteous people, and will do the same with and for their children.
Okay, off my soapbox now. Just putting in my two cents.
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Tue Aug 04, 2009 7:11 am
LaBellaFlor wrote:
jonahsmom wrote:
OMG! I was just asked to do an awesome cake (don't know what I'm gonna do yet) for our upcoming family reunion and now I'm SCARED!!!! I'm pretty sure our gene pool IS polluted...but I've seen the parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins all lay the smack down when kids are doing something they shouldn't. Us rednecks don't let the kids get away with nothin'!
Let me tell you, I'm from a very liberal California & used to be shocked (and no, I'm not trying to be racist, just stating what I ALWAY observed growing up) at how the white kids used to treat there parents. I would see little kids literally jump on their parents backs, hitting & kicking at them, from the teenagers just cursing at their parents like it wasn't nothing. I used to be SHOCKED! But then I moved to the good "ol South" and let me tell you, these white people don't PLAY! The first time I ever went to a store here & saw this kid attempt to act a fool, that father was real clear cut about giving him the business, and he was loud about it.
Laughing so hard right now!!! I was born and raised in the south and this is where I plan to stay!!! I can't imagine letting my child hit me, yell at me, or especially curse at me!!! That's crazy!!
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Tue Aug 04, 2009 7:25 am
Before you jump to judge other people's parenting, remember there may be more to the story than you think.
I have 2 special needs boys and while I work very, very hard at teaching them, sometimes something triggers them when we are out in public there is nothing I can do. Last week my 10yo broke down at a store and while we left as soon as I could, I still need to get what I came for since I knew there was no going back that day. It didn't help that I passed a bunch of other women staring at me and acting like they would never let their kids act that way. I've even had people come up to me in stores and tell me what a bad parent I am and how awful my kids are...in front of them.
While I can agree that there are parents out there that don't do a great job of parenting their kids, before you judge from afar, remember that lots and lots of disabilities are invisible to the general population. No one would know there was anything wrong with my boys unless they spent time with them yet time and again it falls on my "bad parenting."
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Wed Aug 05, 2009 5:52 am
I've always maintained that there are only 3 things you need to teach your children:
1. Manners.
2. Respect (for themselves and others).
3. The difference between right & wrong.
Everything else is just puddin' !
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Thu Aug 06, 2009 7:00 am
Doesn't anyone use babysitters anymore? That's how I made my spending money when I was a teen, but these days parents are either too cheap or seem to have an attitude that their kids are too good for that. I don't get these stupid parents that think that their kids are automatically welcome everywhere. Hello! Wake up and smell the icing! I've personally witnessed brat kids running wild at a reception and repeatedly sticking their fingers in a wedding cake. I wanted to go slap the goofball single dad who let it happen, but it wasn't my wedding, wasn't my cake and the bride was much more gracious than I would have been.
Unfortunately there's no IQ test for parenting; any idiot can make a baby.
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But then I moved to the good "ol South" and let me tell you, these white people don't PLAY! 
The first time I ever went to a store here & saw this kid attempt to act a fool, that father was real clear cut about giving him the business, and he was loud about it. 
) and I don't expect my 3 year old to always know not to touch like the older kids. I expect myself to keep an eye out for the 3 babies.
