Joined: Jan 26, 2005
Posts: 3399
Location: Central Ohio
Posted:
Thu Jun 25, 2009 5:53 am
I'll have to remember the "bathroom exorcism" statement!! (and I can tell you my children all experienced it once - it usually didn't take more than that)
OhMyGanache Forum Addict
Joined: Jul 20, 2007
Posts: 550
Posted:
Thu Jun 25, 2009 7:12 am
cutthecake wrote:
Aaaahhh. The public restroom exorcism. I remember them well.
Reminds me of something I heard long ago about children - sometimes you want to baptize them til the bubbles stop.
Heh.
Loucinda Forum SuperStar!
Joined: Jan 26, 2005
Posts: 3399
Location: Central Ohio
Posted:
Thu Jun 25, 2009 7:35 am
There is a sig on here from someone (can't recall who) that says......raising children is like being pecked to death by chickens.....when I first read that one, I about peed my pants laughing!
A restaurant in PCB Florida has this hanging on the wall:
WARNING: Unruly children will be cooked and eaten!
Ladiesofthehouse Regular Member
Joined: Jun 12, 2008
Posts: 143
Location: Alaska
Posted:
Thu Jun 25, 2009 8:59 pm
My younger brother took his, shall we say, "unruly" daughter to a retirement party for a good friend of theirs. He and his wife let their daughter run with the other children that were brought along by parents that also wanted to enjoy the party without being bothered about watching their kids.
Before you know it all the running kids get tangled up in the power cords for a computer. The computer that was running the slide show and music of the retirees 30 year career. The slide show that took hours to make and was the highlight of the party for the retiree.
They never did get it working again that night and the poor lady that was in charge of it broke down in tears from frustration and embarrassment.
I have 2 children and I maintain that there are places that children simply do not belong.
mishakal908 Newbie
Joined: Mar 16, 2006
Posts: 1
Posted:
Thu Jul 02, 2009 11:33 am
I've been reading all of these posts about how children behave at public gatherings and it's bring back memories of misbehaved children in my family. While I do not have any kids, or brothers and sisters for that matter, I have a rather large extended family. My dad is second of 10 so with Grandma, siblings (and spouses), grandkids (and spouses), and great-grandkids there are about 50 of us or so.
Growing up when there were not as many people we would always get together on the major holidays which wound up being around 4-5 gatherings a year. As my youger uncles started having kids and then the cousins my age began having kids. It became very evident and a few of my aunts and cousins would not watch their children. The worst offenders would stand in front of where the food was set up and talk and eat the entire time. My dad started describing them as cows grazing at the food trough. Over the past 4-5 years the people in my family that would so graciously open their homes to my entire family stopped volunteering to host events because the kids in the family were so uncontrolled.
It came to a head last year when my grandfather passed in the summer and my one aunt volunteered to host the wake at her house. Well the kids decided to go into my uncle's garage (he runs his own electrical business) and proceeded to completely trash his garage and break a number of things. My aunt was so mad she decided that she wasn't going to host Christmas. Because of what happened at my Aunt's none of the family members that have a large enough house to host Christmas would not volunteer either (the family members that have large enough houses are none of the offenders that don't watch their kids). So for the first time ever in family history we didn't have Christmas. It's really disappointing because I'm going to start trying to have kids next year and my cousins and aunts have ruined my future kids getting to know what it is like having a large extended family.
cmp24 Frequent Member
Joined: Aug 31, 2008
Posts: 356
Location: S TX
Posted:
Fri Jul 03, 2009 10:24 am
Lisaa1996 wrote:
I agree with all of you. I have 3 kids ages 11 down to 2 and I would NEVER try to bring them to a shower! They are very well-behaved but come on, obviously it's adult only!!! And even if kids were invited, if you know your kid is a brat and totally disrespectful of other people's property...than LEAVE HIM AT HOME!!!!!!!
I have a friend that has very misbehaved children. I just almost refuse to go to her house anymore because of them. If the kid was anything like my friends....the kid pitched a fit to go and the mom just gave in to make the kid be quiet.
Your right....showers are for adults only. Friend or not....yes i would of charged to repair the cake.
mkolmar Forum SuperStar!
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Birthday: Jun 02
Posted:
Fri Jul 03, 2009 5:11 pm
Sorry this happened to you, but I'm glad you said something rather than "oh, that's alright". I have 4 small kids and they better be well behaved or I pack their little butts right up and we leave.
I would have been the not so popular mom their also, I would have agreed with you.
JGMB Forum Addict
Joined: Aug 23, 2008
Posts: 683
Location: Darien, IL
Birthday: Mar 28
Posted:
Sun Jul 05, 2009 4:19 pm
Okay, I have to chime in with one more story, then I'll shut up!
I was at Ikea today and saw a 4-year old boy jumping from couch to couch in the showroom. The father just stood there, saying, "Stop. Didn't you hear me say, 'stop'?" To which the kid replied, "Yeah." Wow, that really worked in the discipline department!
The father was a big guy, certainly capable of scooping the kid up to MAKE him stop. That's what I would've done if it were my kid (and was even tempted to do today ).
margaretb Frequent Member
Joined: Jul 04, 2008
Posts: 473
Location: Alberta
Posted:
Thu Jul 09, 2009 10:54 pm
mishakal908 wrote:
So for the first time ever in family history we didn't have Christmas. It's really disappointing because I'm going to start trying to have kids next year and my cousins and aunts have ruined my future kids getting to know what it is like having a large extended family.
Traditions can change. And it sounds like the tradition needs to change from everybody show up at the party to only those invited show up. If it were me (and it kind of is, as our big everybody family gatherings have also died out because my mom stopped hosting them and no one stepped up to take over, so I am trying to ease into hosting some family gatherings), I would invite just a few families for a Christmas (not necessarily on Christmas) dinner. I personally would pick my siblings families plus probably two aunt and uncles. Or you could do your siblings plus one aunt/uncle and their children's families. Anyway, actually invite your smallish gathering. Then, and I read this on Miss Manners, if the uninvited and rude ones show up, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LET THEM IN!!! It is bad manners for them to show up uninvited, and so it is okay to say firmly at the door, "Sorry, this isn't a good time for us, we'll have to arrange to meet up some other time."
indydebi Forum Matriarch
Joined: Jul 07, 2006
Posts: 22127
Location: Indianapolis IN
Birthday: Jan 19
Posted:
Fri Jul 10, 2009 5:11 am
margaretb wrote:
Traditions can change.
And each family needs to establish their own traditions.
I worked with someone who was devistated over what to do at THanksgiving. Her grandmother had passed away that year and "..... we've always gone to gramma's for thanksgiving. I don't know what we're going to do!"
She had no idea how to have a thanksgiving dinner with her family! She'd never cooked a dinner or enjoyed preparing dinner with her kids. Lesson learned? Gramma isn't going to live forever. And you know ... maybe gramma would like to just go to your house and not work for hours and hours anymore. Give her a treat by treating her for a change.
cutthecake Forum Addict
Joined: May 19, 2008
Posts: 997
Location: NY
Posted:
Fri Jul 10, 2009 8:50 am
True. I had hosted Thanksgiving dinner for my husband's side of the family (about 20-25 people) for years, and the first year I decided not to do it, NO ONE invited us. So we had Thanksgiving with my side of the family that year. My sister-in-law has invited us for Thanksgiving since then. One year, we stayed home--just us. Now we do whatever we feel like doing on Thanksgiving.
Yup. Traditions change, and sometimes you have to force a change.
Evoir Frequent Member
Joined: Jan 05, 2009
Posts: 308
Location: Australia
Posted:
Sat Jul 11, 2009 2:42 am
That still would be upsetting though...having no-one in that family invite you after your hosting all those years. You can pick your nose, but not your family!
FWIW, I am all for pleasing myself and my immediate family for all the big holidays. Too many forced attendances in my younger years compelled me to now stick to what creates the least stress.
cutthecake Forum Addict
Joined: May 19, 2008
Posts: 997
Location: NY
Posted:
Sat Jul 11, 2009 8:59 pm
Stress-free holidays! I love the concept, but I can never achieve it.
Wouldn't it be great if we could pick our relatives as easily as.....Never mind.
cutthecake Forum Addict
Joined: May 19, 2008
Posts: 997
Location: NY
Posted:
Sat Aug 01, 2009 4:41 pm
I'm reviving this forum because...
Today was our family reunion. I made a three-tiered wedding-type cake (my first) using SPS. It had edible image pictures from my grandparents' wedding, and all their children's (my parents, aunts and uncles) weddings. It also had a few edible image photos from the 1940's, before my time.
I wrote the quote, "All because two people fell in love", and placed red fondant ribbon roses and an Italian flag on it . The tiers were a little uneven on the bottom edges (I need to work on my SPS measuring skills), so I covered them with wide white ribbon. It was far from perfect, but the concept was great. Everyone loved it when I brought it.
Not five minutes later, I looked at the cake and noticed that the white ribbon around the bottom tier was missing. I thought it had fallen off. I asked if anyone had seen it.
My oldest cousin (a grandmother!) said, "Oh, I took it off because it was covering the bottom of the picture."
Me: "Where is it?" I wanted to put it back on.
Cousin: "I threw it out. Do you want me to get it?"
Me: "Why would you do that?"
Cousin: Shrug
Then she went and pulled it out of the filthy garbage pail and handed it to me. It had black, greasey marks on it.
Yeah...I'll be putting that back on the cake.
She's the same relative who poured two inches of turkey grease down my kitchen drain on Thanksgiving.
That's two strikes. BIG strikes.
So, my question is, why wasn't my aunt watching her ADULT child?
indydebi Forum Matriarch
Joined: Jul 07, 2006
Posts: 22127
Location: Indianapolis IN
Birthday: Jan 19
Posted:
Sat Aug 01, 2009 5:27 pm
Family reunions are great except you have to let all of your relatives show up!
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