Joined: Mar 21, 2008
Posts: 93
Location: San Francisco, CA
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 8:09 pm
Well I delivered my 1st belly cake this past Saturday to a family members shower. It was delivered with no imperfections & I had planned to return to the event. Half way into me getting dressed to return I get a call that the cake has been damaged & can I "pretty please" come fix the cake before the mom-to-be gets there. I'm thinking hecks no I'm getting dressed. After 5 more calls I finally get to the shower to find that the same little monster that stuck his somewhat big little fingers in the cake had gotten to it twice? A case of a parent not be alert & watching her kid. With my piping bag in hand I fixed the poke spots & the mother of the kid had the nerve to say well I tried to watch him. WTH!!!! I not so politely told her that evidentially she had tried hard enough since he did it twice. Needless to say I considered the bitchy cake lady for the rest of the shower (who cares). I may be too tough but I think she should have been asked to leave & take her kid with. This is my felling, baby shower does not mean your kids shower & they should be left at home for certain occasions, especially if they don't know how to behave. I hope I haven't offended anyone that feels differently & does anyone currently charge for repairing cake mishaps not caused by you? I'm thinking that'll be my policy going forward, even for family members.
umgrzfn Frequent Member
Joined: Apr 25, 2009
Posts: 377
Location: University of Montana....GO GRIZ!
Birthday: Sep 22
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 8:13 pm
In agreement here!!!! Once...ok maybe...BUT TWICE?????!!!!! Ok, that mom needs a slap along side the head!!!!! A baby shower, wedding shower...whatever shower is for adults. I don't think you said it was a "birthday" shower!!!!!!!!!
Alice1230 Frequent Member
Joined: Jan 25, 2008
Posts: 263
Location: Lake Murray, South Carolina
Birthday: Dec 30
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 8:14 pm
I woulde be mad too,,,especially if it had happened twice!
KawaiiCakeCook Regular Member
Joined: Mar 08, 2009
Posts: 192
Location: Tokyo
Birthday: Jan 04
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 8:16 pm
oh i'm a total grinch....I completely dislike miscreant children. And I don't have any of my own so no I just don't get it. yes I know, I'm a horrible person, totally get it. I have friends with great kids, and friends with terrors, guess who gets invited to my place for dinner Will I eat my words when i have children probably but until then I can't stand those free loving parents and their little ankle bitters.
indydebi Forum Matriarch
Joined: Jul 07, 2006
Posts: 22127
Location: Indianapolis IN
Birthday: Jan 19
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 8:22 pm
I LUV'D your comment to her! Am I'm with you .... if they want to consider me the b*tch of the party because of making a statement like that, then let 'em. It wasn't MY kid that played in the food!
Anything can happen once .... but twice? Bull.
Lisaa1996 Regular Member
Joined: Apr 11, 2009
Posts: 156
Location: Ashburnham, MA
Birthday: Mar 06
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 8:25 pm
I agree with all of you. I have 3 kids ages 11 down to 2 and I would NEVER try to bring them to a shower! They are very well-behaved but come on, obviously it's adult only!!! And even if kids were invited, if you know your kid is a brat and totally disrespectful of other people's property...than LEAVE HIM AT HOME!!!!!!!
erin_e Junior Member
Joined: Apr 14, 2009
Posts: 30
Location: Northern KY
Birthday: Feb 13
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 8:31 pm
I can't stand kids that are brats either! I KNOW they can be good because I have about 1/2 a dozen cousins who would never stick their fingers in food not on their plate (ranging from 3-1st grade.) The only kids that ever come to a shower in our family are the ones that are still in a carrier and can't shove their fingers in the cake!
I can't stand going to Walmart mainly because of it...was there the other night and almost took out a 3 year old running alone through the aisles when he came around a corner. I said (really loudly cause I know the adult was next to me--she was reaching for the kid) "wow, look at the kid with the irresponsible parent!" i could feel the glare burning into my head!
jonahsmom Frequent Member
Joined: Jan 28, 2009
Posts: 259
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 8:38 pm
Okay, so I have to say...honestly, I have totally mixed feelings about this!
I'm pretty new to caking, but it drives me nertz when someone's kid puts their fingers in the cake! It happened with my nephew's cake (nascar one) and my grandparents 50th anniversary cake. OMG It seriously bugged me the eff out!!!
That said, my son is autistic, ocd, and tourettes. Some things he does just come out.....he can't really control it. But, and this is a HUGE BUT, my husband and I are on him like white on rice all the time. Especially at an event. For his safety and everyone/everything else around him! And if we feel he would be in a situation where people would misunderstand him, belittle or berate him in any way because of his behavior, or if some of his tics would cause a disaster, we do something else fun as a family and none of us misses out. Not because I would be embarrassed, but because we understand that there are certain instances that he just cannot handle and stress causes more ticking and stimming. Take our recent trip to the Science Center for instances......eeeyikes!!!!
Even though he doesn't catch the subtleties of life and socialization, he knows NO ONE TOUCHES MAMA'S CAKE BUT MAMA!!!!! He has never once tried to touch a cake. He does love to watch me make them...sits in a chair by the door in the kitchen...and he always says they're pretty. Even before they start to look like anything. He knows what fondant is, he knows what buttercream is, etc. because he is very curious and truly wants to know what's going on over there!
But yeah....keep them damn kids away from the cake! Sometimes, the adults, too! Yep, I've seen adults touching a cake to see what it's made of....they don't think I see, but I do!!!!
jonahsmom Frequent Member
Joined: Jan 28, 2009
Posts: 259
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 8:41 pm
I guess they're not really mixed feelings at all! My kid knows not to touch so everyone else's kids should too!!
summernoelle Forum SuperStar!
Joined: Mar 08, 2007
Posts: 2350
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 8:49 pm
I too have mixed feelings. I would be so irritated if I was you, but at the same time, stuff does happen.
Most of the time my kids are good and sweet and well behaved. But man when they aren't and something happens, I freaking hate it when people give me the stink eye or say something snotty. Life with kids is hard! They aren't always perfect! It doesn't mean I am a lazy parent!
Cakeandcupcakes Junior Member
Joined: Apr 29, 2009
Posts: 45
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 9:14 pm
Clearly a touchy topic for everyone. I have two kids and agree they should not be at showers or adult events at all. However, my kids have also been known to stick their fingers in a cake that I was making at home. That being said, I always photograph my cakes after I drop them off at all angles and the surrounding area to make sure that if they do get damaged onsite I can #1 prove it was not my fault and #2 charge for the correction if needed.
cocobaby Newbie
Joined: Nov 04, 2006
Posts: 13
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 9:15 pm
It's not kids all the time! I work at a retail store and we hold Bridal Expos in our store twice a year. Last year, 4 days before the event, the person who was to supply the cake couldn't do it, we had just went through a hurricane the week before. The department manager asked if I could make just a simple cake to serve the brides to be. When I left the cake someone was to be with it at all times. Needless to say, the person "watching" it stepped away and an adult woman stuck her fingers in the top tier!! What nerve! You would think a grown person would know better.
Bluehue Forum Addict
Joined: Aug 01, 2008
Posts: 698
Location: Western Australia
Birthday: Dec 12
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 9:40 pm
As a parent i firmly believe that there is nothing more important than knowing where your child is and what they are doing at all times - THATS PARENTING - and the whiney voice of a Mother who says - "ohhh, i'm sorry that he stuck his fingers in the cake" deserves more than a curt look.
Arghhhhhh - people touching food - that isn't on their plate -
ArtieTs ...you had every reason to be and the reason THAT Mother was flip about it is really as plain as the noses on our faces SHE DIDN'T MAKE IT
Bluehue.
Ruth0209 Forum Addict
Joined: Aug 09, 2007
Posts: 933
Location: Scenic Idaho
Birthday: Feb 09
Posted:
Mon Jun 15, 2009 11:33 pm
jonahsmom wrote:
Okay, so I have to say...honestly, I have totally mixed feelings about this!
I'm pretty new to caking, but it drives me nertz when someone's kid puts their fingers in the cake! It happened with my nephew's cake (nascar one) and my grandparents 50th anniversary cake. OMG It seriously bugged me the eff out!!!
That said, my son is autistic, ocd, and tourettes. Some things he does just come out.....he can't really control it. But, and this is a HUGE BUT, my husband and I are on him like white on rice all the time. Especially at an event. For his safety and everyone/everything else around him! And if we feel he would be in a situation where people would misunderstand him, belittle or berate him in any way because of his behavior, or if some of his tics would cause a disaster, we do something else fun as a family and none of us misses out. Not because I would be embarrassed, but because we understand that there are certain instances that he just cannot handle and stress causes more ticking and stimming. Take our recent trip to the Science Center for instances......eeeyikes!!!!
Even though he doesn't catch the subtleties of life and socialization, he knows NO ONE TOUCHES MAMA'S CAKE BUT MAMA!!!!! He has never once tried to touch a cake. He does love to watch me make them...sits in a chair by the door in the kitchen...and he always says they're pretty. Even before they start to look like anything. He knows what fondant is, he knows what buttercream is, etc. because he is very curious and truly wants to know what's going on over there!
But yeah....keep them damn kids away from the cake! Sometimes, the adults, too! Yep, I've seen adults touching a cake to see what it's made of....they don't think I see, but I do!!!!
I totally empathize. My oldest daughter is developmentally disabled with OCD and ADHD. She's 27 now and much calmer, but oh, boy, when she was small we called her Demolition Lisa! She's a tiny little person (she's 4'9" and wears a little girls' size 12), but she's always been a stick of dynamite. We learned early on that there were just a LOT of places we couldn't take her. I didn't always love that, but it was our life. We had our share of disasters with her that didn't seem funny at the time, but are part of the family lore now that we laugh about.
Evoir Frequent Member
Joined: Jan 05, 2009
Posts: 308
Location: Australia
Posted:
Tue Jun 16, 2009 12:02 am
Interesting discussion! My husband and I are consistent with our disciplining of our two kids...but we have noticed a lot of disapproval from the 'free-and-easy' parenting camp because of this!! Mostly it happened when they were toddlers. In fact those first 6 years I would say are crucial in setting boundaries and doing the very hard work of REAL parenting.
As an example, if we were at someone's home for a party and our kids did something they aren't allowed to do at home (usually following some delinquent other child's behavioural example) we would given them 'time out'. Some people have no trouble telling you that you're too harsh, that its not important, that they're only kids blah blah blah. It sucks when you are trying to discipline your kids and other parents/grandparents almost sabotage your efforts! I for one got sick of defending our methods. But guess who has two incredibly well-behaved, charming, polite and happy kids now??
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Will I eat my words when i have children probably but until then I can't stand those free loving parents and their little ankle bitters.
